One of my pet peeves about wedding ceremonies is that bridesmaids and groomsmen are frequently asked to walk down the aisle together, never having met and barely knowing each other’s names, if at all.
Been there, done that? Well, so have I, and it’s very uncomfortable. I think it borders on rude to ask your attendants to walk with someone they’ve never had any interaction with, as well as stand for hours taking photos together.
If you were having a party at your home and you invited friends who had never met, you would make it a priority to introduce them to one another at the party, right? Well, why should a wedding be any different?
A wedding is an event of a lifetime, and I believe special attention should be paid to making sure all the participants know each other. That’s why I think it’s a good idea to have a few opportunities prior to the wedding to make introductions and let the attendants get to know one another.
For instance, when planning tuxedo fittings, bridesmaid dress selections, choosing a caterer, exploring a venue or deciding on a wedding cake, why not make it an event and invite all the attendants and their spouses?
This would 1) help all the attendants feel part of the planning and decision-making process, and 2) begin the process of your attendants getting familiar with one another.
By the time the wedding rolls around, they know each other’s names, spouses’ names, and have some “history.”
After the event, plan a casual lunch out at a favorite sandwich shop for further interaction. Making the time and effort to think about those in your wedding party will make for a more meaningful wedding experience for all your attendants.
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