It's the one thing no bride-to-be wants to think about. What happens if your engagement is broken? In case of the unthinkable, we've compiled a list of the proper etiquette for a broken engagement.
The Ring
Whether or not the bride keeps the engagement ring depends on a combination of things. Some people believe that the ring is a gift, and therefore the woman should get to keep it no matter the circumstances (this also depends on the state's laws). A general rule is if the man breaks the engagement, she will keep the ring. If the woman breaks the engagement, it is common courtesy to return the ring. A ring that is a family heirloom should be returned to whichever family it originated. A couple that purchased the ring together should make the decision of the ring's fate together as well.
The Invites
Retracting the invitations to a wedding may be one of the more difficult tasks to face in the event of a broken engagement. The best thing to do if formal invitations have been sent is to send a card simply stating that the wedding will not happen. Time is a factor, so if there isn't time to send the cards, simply call or email the guests. Also, remember to let the officiant and those who were going to be in the wedding know as soon as possible. They may also be able to help contact guests to let them know of the situation.
The Gifts
Any gifts (including money) received as a couple should be returned. Include a card thanking them again for the gift, and briefly state the engagement has ended. Some people will not accept the returned gift, in this case, keep the present. Also keep any gifts that have been used, such as cooking utensils and silverware.
The Vendors
Contact your vendors as soon as possible. A refund of your deposit will hinge on the contract with your vendor, and how advanced the cancellation notice is. Wedding insurance will not cover a broken engagement, and the honeymoon may be non-refundable as well.
A broken engagement is a difficult thing to navigate. Do not be afraid to ask for help from friends and family to contact vendors and guests. Also, do not feel obligated to explain the circumstances regarding the break-up with anyone if you do not feel comfortable doing so.
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