The last thing an engaged couple wants is to have to postpone their wedding. Sometimes, postponement is the right thing to do when circumstances dictate that a later date is better. Health problems, family issues or the couple realizing they need more time to work on their relationship issues are all reasons why some people decide to postpone their wedding.
When that happens, it is critical that the couple handle the decision by being proactive–and that means letting people hear directly from the couple themselves that the wedding has been postponed. Couples are sometimes embarrassed about needing to put the wedding off, so they don’t say anything and just let friends and family find out through the “all-too-untrustworthy” grapevine.
This “inactive” approach can cause a lot of confusion, speculation and rumors that can make an awkward situation downright horrible. If people aren’t given the correct information, they have a tendency to assume or make up wrong information.
The couple should be as up-front about the postponement as they were about announcing the original wedding date. Did they send out a “save the date” card? Then I think it’s highly appropriate (and appreciated) if they send out a card letting guests know the wedding has been postponed.
I have friends who recently did this via Facebook because that’s how they let many of their guests know about the original wedding date. And while you don’t have to give specifics, it’s always appreciated to let your guests know why you’ve decided to postpone the wedding. “Due to Amy’s dad’s recent bout with cancer, we’ve decided to postpone the wedding…” or “Because we realize we just need a little more time to get to know each other, we’ve decided to wait until January to marry.”
You don’t have to give intimate details–just be honest and up-front. When you do set a new date, let people know with the same enthusiasm as you did at the beginning.
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